Engagement and Shower Gifts
If there is a small informal engagement party with close friends and family, gifts are optional. Usually only close relatives or friends would bring a gift just for the bride to the party. The bride would only open the gifts at the party if everyone brought one.
At a large formal engagement party gifts are not expected. If a guest does bring a gift, it would not be opened during the party to avoid embarrassing the others who correctly did not bring a gift.
To prevent overburdening her friends, a bride should consider having no more than two showers. Brides should remember that the more showers your friends have to buy gifts for, the less funds they have available for the main wedding gift.